Debby-downer is a well-known perpetually negative person who tries to bring everyone down with them. For such people, life is always against them and they will never be able to be content and happy about their lives. They find themselves alone most of the time. Their negativity keeps them alone without making them move physically in their surroundings.
Sometimes, everyone complains about life once in a while, especially in our overly negative minded society. Dr. Robin Kowalski, professor of psychology at Clemson University, firmly says that complaining at all times is perfectly normal.
Archetypes Of Negativity
Everyone who is negative minded won’t experience and express their views on life and world in the same way. Similar to other aspects of personality, pessimism has its variations too.
These are three most common types of complainers:
Venters: Venters need them to be listened to by others. They always look for someone who can listen to their complaints. Although they share the complaints, they quickly refuse the solutions, even if they are good advices.
Sympathy Seekers: Everyone’s come across one of these before. Sympathy Seekers always one-up your misery. They always think it is the worst thing. They are very quick to point out the faults in situations and others around them.
Chronic Complainers: According to the researchers these types of complainers do something researchers call “ruminating”, which means to over think and complain about an issue. Even after complaining they become worried and sad about the act without relaxing.
Pessimism Reconnects Your Brain
Pessimism is a downward spiral, which means that the more you are attentive on issues instead of solutions, you start to see the negative side of everything in your life all the time.
While sessions of negative thinking happen on and off, it’s essential to let yourself survive the hardships, but quickly move on to correct solutions.
And it’s really valuable doing: for one, negativity causes a vast physical destruction to your brain. “… people who routinely experience chronic stress—particularly acute, even traumatic stress—release the hormone cortisol, which literally eats away, almost like an acid bath, at the hippocampus, which is a part of the brain that’s very engaged in visual-spatial memory as well as memory for context and setting,” says Rick Hanson, Ph.D., a psychologist and Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.
Additionally, negative thinking forcefully makes neuropathways associated with that emotion, often making it an automatic reaction. The same can be said of any feeling or action which is repeated more and more.
However, this also allows you to make a change in your brain!
How To Behave In A Positive Manner
You can train your brain to engage in anything, even when it comes to your general attitude on life. The more you try hard to find the positivity in every situation you undergo, the more the process becomes automatic.
At the end, you’ll work hard to see the positive!
Here are a few simple activities to retrain your brain:
Be grateful: Search something to be grateful for everyday. If you maintain something like a journal, jot down 3 things that you are grateful for every morning and every night as a regular practice.
If you start to feel nervous, worried or pessimistic, stay for a while and write them down again. If it’s too hard for you, write down 5 or even 10 new things you’re grateful for. At the end of this activity you’ll surely feel quite okay and content.
Catch yourself: Don’t make others such as your friends or family members to let you know that you’re complaining. Always be attentive to your feelings and words.
If you get to know that you’re complaining, quickly use your energy to find the necessary solutions and lessons to be learned. Don’t forget to have a nice cup of tea as a present for yourself for making the solutions.
Change your mood: If you feel overwhelmed and pessimistic, remove yourself from what you’re engaged in and shift your state of mind. Sit down with your favorite book and cook up a tasty treat if you’re at home. If you’re at work, relax yourself by going to the washroom or to the break room for a few minutes to listen to your favorite song.
Take deep breaths, closing your eyes, paying attention to every word. Hold on tightly to that relaxing feeling and keep it with you the entire day.
Practice wise effort: Wise effort is your practice of letting go of any unwanted things that doesn’t serve you. If the thing you worry about or your worries won’t help your situation or teach you a lesson, simply let it go. Move on forward calmly.
These can be said and done very easily. But, keep in mind to get advices from your friends if you write your issues. Take some time and think broadly about the issues and construct your positive mind. Therefore your efforts will become successful for sure.
If you still feel worried even after practicing these activities, here are 5 other practices which you can try:
Source of the information: dailyhealthpost.com